Im still in love with my ex but after all this, does she feel the same?

No offense but I really didn't have the strength (read: patience) to read through the entire post because there is too much back and forth. She either wants to be with you or she doesn't. She seems immature and confused. She needs to figure out if she wants your relationship to work/progress OR not. this wishy-washy attitude will not work. AND YOU!!!! You are an enabler. I get that you love her. Really I do but you're the one encouraging this nonsense as well. You have to put your foot down man. If she wants to be with this other guy, let her go. Even if it hurts. Life is too short to be spending months and years dealing with someone's indecision. Do you know how many stable & great gals that may be interested in you? Who would probably complement YOU better? And make your life a little less stressful? Do something....NOW! And if not NOW, then SOON!